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Pornography gets a bad rap, and not without some justification. Yet despite problems with it, pornography in lots of different forms continues to be enjoyed by men (and women). Since frequent ejaculation is a component of penis health, the masturbatory aid can be seen as conducive to a healthy activity. But it is not just for solo use; pornography is often used as a way to stimulate better sex for a few.
When individuals think of pornography, X-rated videos and pictures are what tend to come to mind. Yet pornography does not have to be relegated strictly to the visual realm. Some couples may discover that audio-based porn might be more up their alley.
For example, simply “talking to dirty” may stimulate sexual interest in a whole new way. If a couple tends to use technical terms when referring to their organs or their actions, they could respond positively to getting “down and dirty” with their language during sex.
Role-playing is yet another option. A couple decides on a sex-based scenario and takes on the guise of characters in that scenario. As an example, a man may play a policeman pulling over a woman for speeding. The woman explains the sexual favors she would do to get out of receiving a ticket, and the couple moves forward from there.
Or some couples may simply enjoy having sex while listening to (but not watching) an adult video. The sounds of other couples moaning and groaning may stimulate more than one’s audio senses.
As always, “traditional” pornography is also a worthy option. Assuming that both partners are interested in exploring this together, it still helps to talk about some things in advance:
Comfort level. Are both partners equally interested, or is just one “pushing” another? There’s not really anything wrong with asking about it, but partners need to be sensitive and understand that a lot of people simply might not be receptive.
Genre. A man may be intensely into a pornographic video in which one guy is serviced by a bevy of beautiful women. His mate might also be into this – but on the other hand, she very well may not. It’s a wise decision to determine in advance what areas of pornography a few desires to explore; on the whole, it’s usually best to start with fairly “straightforward” porn.
Share. Couples should establish that sharing their thoughts about the porn – whether during or after the viewing – is acceptable and may also lead to better sex. For instance, a woman may want to point out that the position a few is using onscreen may very well be a great deal of fun, or perhaps a man might want to state that the way the actress is stroking the actor’s penis is exactly the way he likes to be fondled. It’s also okay to continue this conversation in the event the couple has moved on to engaging in sex themselves. Saying, “Can you enter me the way he did?” or, “Try holding me that way” while in the midst of lovemaking can be valuable.
